Monday, November 08, 2004

rambling thoughts..

another sunday night...

had a good day yesterday. 3 hrs of work.. since one kid didnt turn up. i had no compliance issues with any of the kids, so that was excellent.

sushi for dinner..and oh man. i realised that Christmas decorations r up in the city! is it that time of the year again?

i do hope i can come back to singapore in time for Christmas.. i want to hear benji n the rest of the choir sing again. so many ppl i want to see, hear, hug...

of coz the source of entertainment i had lately r frm watching Australian Idol and Amazing Race...

a thought came to my mind yesterday..and so i proceed to ask a couple of ppl abt it. Is being IN LOVE a choice or is it a 'when it comes it comes" sort of thing? e.g. Do u choose to fall for person A.. or does love arrives unexpectedly..and u fall for that person jus like that? i guess the answer is.. choice. talking to some other friends made me realised that .. yeah. is no longer the younger days, when u can simply hv a crush on a person. no longer that drama 'oh my goodness.. he is so hot.. i'm in love' sort of thing but as we grow older..we make choices.. even more so abt the ppl we hang around with.. and of coz the ppl/person that we may consider to be our future partners.

but hving said that, an attraction is needed before the person make the choice to pursue it further isnt it? so.. where does that attraction comes frm? ok, i'm not going to go into the scientific debate abt why we r more attracted to some than to another (it reminds me of the Year 1 essay on Love..where we hv like 7 factors or something.. by this guy call sternberg). We can choose to ACT upon the attraction.. but how do one feel attracted to another in the first place (pls do not tell me abt eye contact velda.. i will strangle you... although i do agree with the theory.. ok ok.. so peeps. u want a tip? if u want to be more attractive..jus make sure u remember to have periods of eye contact with the person u like when u talk to him/her... how u start liking that person.. is another story).

So choices does matter. obviously, even if u feel attracted to someone...and he/she is married.. u try not to act upon it (so i hope.. :p). as what a friend said "it's all abt the free will"...

free will or not. even if u feel attracted to a person..act upon it. it will still fall flat on your face of that person dont respond. Now..that's a sad story. something that i suppose..even i'm a little scared of.

3 comments:

Thoughts said...

i wasn't going to mention eye contact. doink!

i was going to say rather,congrats on arriving at the age to come to the conclusion u did:)

remember evolutionary theory? it's all abt getting the genes to survive. i.e. someone that you can live with and not drive u nuts... blar blar blar

at the end of the day? love is just a load of bull****....


it's all abt sex and the need to affliation... i.e. not wanting to end up alone.... lalala

Anonymous said...

You mean bullying me / getting bullied by me isn't a source of entertainment as well? :p

Anonymous said...

above comment was by me - Armand.

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